(Thanks for coming, Rep. Splaine. I look forward to the discussion. - promoted by Dean)
It's about time that gays and lesbians who are in a loving, committed relationship are treated with all of the same rights, responsibilities, and obligations that a man and woman who are in a loving, committed relationship have.
There is nothing more important than the way we treat one another. While we can't cure all of this planet's wrongs, at least we should resolve that here in New Hampshire and now in 2007, we will create equality in our laws for same-sex unions.
I have been openly gay for over 20 years, and I feel discrimination or disapproval just about every day -- in the workplace, or in my community, my neighborhood, or in politics. It happens.
But worse is the discrimination I see toward others who are gay or lesbian. It just isn't right. The discrimination has to stop.
I know many of my gay and lesbian friends want to have the word "marriage" as part of any law allowing unions. I do too.
But I also know many of my gay and lesbian friends feel that what is most important right now is that those rights, responsibilities, and obligations of union are equally shared. We have waited too long as it is.
If some 5-10% of our population is gay and lesbian, there are about 70,000 to 140,000 among us in New Hampshire. The discrimination has to stop.
For years, New Hampshire has been on the crest of providing more equality for our gay and lesbian residents. Our state is one of just 20 in the nation that provides for civil rights equality in areas of services, housing, and employment. In most of the country, people can still be fired just for being gay, but in the mid-1990s New Hampshire adopted a law offering protection.
That, and other protections, exist because of the leadership of people like State Senator Rick Trombly, State Representatives Mo Baxley, Ray Buckley, Marlene DeChane, Nick Panagopoulos, Dana Hilliard, and Bill McCann, and Governor Jeanne Shaheen, among others.
However, official discrimination in our state still exists in many of our relationship and financial laws. While I am in favor of full marriage equality with the word "marriage" -- a position I have publicly held and spoken out for since the early 1990s -- I feel that we can no longer wait to have equality in those three important words -- "rights," "responsibilities," and "obligations," and that is what a spousal union bill will do.
Civil unions in Vermont, Connecticut, and now New Jersey are providing a good degree of equality in those states, although I and many others who are gay and lesbian would much more prefer the Massachusetts approach of full marriage equality. California has just adopted laws providing for marriage equality, again without that word.
While it will be controversial and there is some hope in some Democratic circles that we avoid certain contentious issues, the time for more open dialogue about full marriage equality is here. I and others will be introducing legislation to accomplish some important steps in this area, and it is time New Hampshire moves positively.
It's about time. People 50 years from now will wonder why we have waited so long already. The discrimination has to stop.
What do you think?
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